Okay this is my last post. I didn't realize that this was an Aspie only forum. It makes sense because people with other forms of autism aren't very driven to communicate so I doubt they would be active on this type of forum. My son does not have Asperger's, although he does belong to forums that pertain to his interests. He doesn't even know that he is autistic. I felt he would be happier not knowing. What is the point of knowing you have something that you can't do anything about? Before I go though, I would like to thank those who were nice to me and make a few last comments.
Jack: You have been very nice and I thank you for that. I don't even know why you felt you had to apologize but thanks for that as well.
Here is something you said on 9/23/11:
There's plenty of forums strictly designed for parents to talk to others parents. Parents might consider the possible impact of sharing details about child's personal life on forums the child might one day wish to join.
Jack 9/23/11
My response is that there was millions of forums on the net and the chance that my child will stumble on the same forum and recognize himself described therein is almost nil. Secondly, by the time those children have children of their own and are interested in joining parenting forums, either those forums will no longer exist or posts that are several years old would have been deleted.
Eris: I don't think that you really hate me. I think you just enjoy watching the show.
I just dont really see anything horrible that the kid did. Wanting to be independent is just natural at that age and you will clash with your parents. It shouldnt be a huge surprise that teenagers are rebellious and it doesnt mean her kid is a bad person but she is basically saying that her daughter is a "bad person". . If she was off stealing cars and shooting up supermarkets then maybe I would agree. I just think she doesnt like the person he daughter has become and as a parent she should take some responsibility for that.
quote from eris on 9/23/11
Maybe you missed the part where I said that my daughter stole a car. It was difficult to know what to do as a parent because nothing we tried helped. Her hatred of us at the time was so strong that her aim was to do as much damage as she could. Like I said, she blamed us for events that were beyond our control. Now she is working very hard to make us proud of her.
Ive known a lot of parents that say " look my kid is a bad person !" right to the kids face. So, they become a bad person.
So I guess I really dont know what motives she had for bashing her kids like that, but I still think it was excessive, and inappropriate to start out new somewhere like that. First impressions, etc etc, And the " I was asked so I told" excuse is lame. If someone asked her for her credit card info would she give that out too ?
eris 9/24/11
I don't believe I was bashing my kids. It was anonymous and the possibility that they would see my posts is almost nonexistent. I never once told my kids that they were bad people. I always told them that I loved them and that I would never abandon them. I told them there was nothing they could do that would make me stop loving them. I will never do what my own parents did.
Calavera: You'll believe whatever you want to, so I am done trying to explain myself to you.
Ron Hoek: You weren't nice.
Midlife Aspie: You were neutral.
Squid Ink: You were neutral generally, but you asked me the totally inappropriate "boob" question and called me a "tad bratty." I don't take offense.
PPK: You had no opinion of me.
Odeon: You were neutral.
Al Swearengen: You were annoying but I believe you meant it as a joke. I hope you enjoyed being Obama rolled.
Callaway: You were supportive, thank you.
I try not to take an hour to tell someone about a ninety minute movie I recently watched and I try to watch for people rolling their eyes or glancing at their watches to realize that I'm talking too long, but I'm definitely not a mind-reader.
Callaway 9/23/11
My husband and I love our daughter more than anything, but her behavior can be very challenging sometimes. I know that some people might think that her challenging behavior is caused by the way we are parenting her, but that's just not true. I think that sometimes, despite good parenting, children can make poor choices. It's possible that this could be the case with Steadfast's daughter. As far as I have read, she seems proud of how her autistic son is turning out and she raised him too.
Callaway 9/24/11
I feel responsible because I was the person who asked her. I asked because I was curious about what happened with her daughter. I could see my daughter at some point maybe calling the police to tattle on me for something silly and I wondered how she handled her daughter doing that. I wonder if maybe her daughter could be a narcissist.
Callaway 9/25/11
My totally "normal" daughter takes 90 minutes to describe a 90 minute movie too.
Miss Brown: You were supportive, thank you.
As for the callout, MCalavera obviously is the winner! but i do understand the frustrations of steadfast - just maybe get your feet under the table and make a few friends first before making bold statements. Do stay though.
Miss Brown 9/25/11
Just to say i am glad that you have taken the time to try
and explain. I think it may be hard for you to stick around, but
i, personally (and i am not an influential member here) would be
happy to talk to you about your children, and your issues with
them if you do. I don't think you are a troll, i think you
made some poorly worded comments which you have
apologised for. Welcome back, and stick around. There are
lots of really cool people here.
Miss Brown 10/3/11
Butterflies: You were understanding, thank you.
I'm not sure. Some of her most trollish comments came during her intro thread, where people were asking her to show her tits.
What we see as trolling, may have been her showing her butthurt at what she saw as an unpleasant welcome.
Butterflies 10/3/11
I was never a troll. I never meant to say anything rude or controversial. How great it is that the internet is so vast that I can go to another forum and start over without having to move to a new town. Maybe I'll get it right next time.
I am a very curious person. These are some of the questions I was going to ask:
1. How did you find out about your autism? How old were you?
2. Before you were told, did you think you were any different from anyone else?
3. How did knowing about it change your behavior? Did you ever use your diagnosis as an excuse instead of trying to conform?
4. What do you think about the vaccine theory? (I know it isn't true in my son's case)
5. When you meet people, how soon do you tell them about it? (I know that most diabetics keep their disease secret)
6. If no one had told you about your autism, do you think you would have figured it out by now due to the publicity the syndrome has gotten in recent times?
7. Does it bother you when they have autistic characters in TV and movies because of the stereotyping? Does that kid on Alphas bother you?
8. Has having autism affected your ability to get a job?
9. What would you say to an autistic person who didn't realize that he was offending people by the way he was speaking to them?
10. What do you think about those people who claim to have cured people of autism?
11. Now that you are grown, do you have any insights that would help other parents in how to teach correct behaviors to their autistic children?
12. What is WP? Is it a site I would be interested in?
13. On another forum they were discussing a study about atheism that postulated that autistic people were more likely to be atheist than the general population. Is this true? If so, why?
