Is it racist to not want to date outside of your race ?

[eris]

I have posted this at a few other forums and it always turns into a big fight and ends up getting locked. I know you guys arent so sensitive so Im bringing up a really tough subject for me.

Ive never really been attracted to anyone but white, jewish, or spanish men. And I dont know why. I love black people ! I have a lot of black friends and native american friends and all kinds of friends.

I do not think anything ill of any race and genuinely think all men are created equal.

Then what the hell ? I have always been bothered by this. It is not that I think they are "unattractive" I am just not really into it. IDK why. Not only that but I dont really like blonds or redheads or guys with muscles either. So I like skinny dark haired boys and that is it. Why ?

Is this racist ? I hope not. I dont think I am but there must be something about my wiring that makes me like this.

would you date outside of your race ?

[Squidusa]

It's only racist if you actively discriminate by saying , you wouldn't date them because they are black and beneath you, or stuff like that.

The fact that you don't date black guys is a matter of taste , the fact you aren't as attracted to them as you are white guys.
I'm the same my cousin is the opposite , she pretty much ONLY likes black men but we both agree on asian men.

[eris]

Yes I think it is just what I find esthetically pleasing.

When I was 12 I had a black boyfriend for like a week and sometimes we would smile at each other and we held hands once

Does that count ?

['Butterflies']

No. I dont think its racist. I am attracted to certain races more than others. This doesnt mean I would rule out a relationship with the races Im not attracted to, and it certainly doesnt mean I wouldnt be friends with those people.
Being attracted to certain races is no worse than prefering blondes over brunettes.
I like white people, as well as asian, and obviously Jews and Hispanics. I like lighter black people,but not so much very dark blaxk people.
For some reasonIm very attracted to Indian/Pakistani people, alrhough, obviously without the religion.

[Parts]

OMG you racist

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel it's not racist it's sexual preference.  It's not like you wouldn't be their friend or associate with them you just don't want to have sex with them

[Psychophant]

It isn't racist, it's personal preference.  What attracts you??  Racist is a whole other ball of wax. 

[eris]

what attracts me. hmm, being scrawny, punk rock, with pale skin and dark hair.

I guess if I like found a person of a different race that fit those criteria I would go for it. Like I would date an Armenian or something like that. Maybe arab if they were very pale.

The smallness is really more important though. I found a pair of Jeffs pants and the size said "16" and that confused me, so I asked a male friend and he said that means they were little boys sizes  

[Osensitive1]

Agree, personal attraction isn't racism.

[Trigger 11]

It's just your preference. Like CBC said! I have had the opportunity to date black women, but I am just not interested. For some reason, I always end up with short brunettes, but have also dated (not slept with) and am attracted to tall blondes.

[bodie]

No it's not at all racist.  I am not really attracted to some races either   -  and i ain't gonna
bother dating them just to appear to be non racist.  Fuck that!

[eris]

phew ! Im alright I guess

It really did bother me, though. I always wondered why I am like this. But it is true, I only like skinny dark haired boys. It's not like I am "racist" against blonds I suppose.

["couldbecousin"]

It's just your preference. Like CBC said! I have had the opportunity to date black women, but I am just not interested. For some reason, I always end up with short brunettes, but have also dated (not slept with) and am attracted to tall blondes.

 I hadn't posted yet but that's what I *would* have said.    All my crushes are on white guys, that's just how it happens.

[renaeden]

I like pale skin, dark hair and dark eyes. And I got that with GA.

I guess if you didn't want to talk or associate with other races, that would be considered racist. But you are not racist. Makes me wonder what was said on other boards to get the threads locked?

[Al Swearegen]

Yes I was waiting for someone to spell out what I was thinking and Bodie did this.
If someone was to tell someone else that un less they slept with a member of a designated subset then they were not  bigotted then this would be ridiculous.
"You don't hate old people do you. I think you are a bigot against old people. No......prove it...sleep with one"
Take out the old people and slot in whatever you like and it will still read badly.

[The_Chosen_One]

I personally don't think there is any problem; you date who you want. I know of whites who go out with darkies (the males are gin-jockeys if the woman is black. Dunno the term for the reverse).

Among muslim men/women people have become racist because of the hatred toward them brought on by the war on terror and all that shit. But as far as dating or screwing other races, and whether you do or don't, it's mostly up to whoever is involved.