Drove 40 minutes each way to measure for a bid that I am more than likely not going to get
Done similar many times and you slump home, "kicking rocks" and still go out on the very next call.
THEN, when you get one, life is good again!
I used to do installs of sound equipment in offices and churches. None of them want it done right and they all want it for free. But occasionally you get to do one RIGHT that you are proud to have done!
Hang in there! At least you ARE trying.