Our son is sure strong, he hates going to bed so he is just like me. So he keeps crying and screaming because he just doesn't want to go to sleep and it's 11:44 PM. We have been trying for over an hour now. My husband came in and took over and he was fine and then he started screaming and crying and finally my husband kicked me out of the room so he can try and get him to go to sleep because he thinks I am going to save him. None of us are giving in.
Have you ever tried a five minute regime?
Tuck him in, bed time story and all, the usual first bedtime routine, make it a nice time, and, then leave, telling him you will check in on him in five minutes.
Don't go in before that, no matter how hard he howls. And, after five minutes, tuck him in, quickly, give him a kiss, and tell him you will check in on him, in five minutes, make it quick.
It may take you a couple of nights, but, your son will learn that you will be close at hand, when he needs you. Mum or dad out of sight does not mean they are completely gone. After a few nights he will very likely fall asleep within half an hour. And, after a week or so, you can increase the intervals of checking in on him to six, seven, eight, etc. minutes. It's a friendlier way than just letting the kid howl till it falls asleep, because you will be learning him that you will be there, he doesn't have to be anxious, mom and dad are around, just not in his room.
This will only work if you do it consistently. Do not make the intervals longer than promised, he has to be able to rely on you. And do not do anything more than quickly tucking him in, with a kiss, and the promise to check in on him after five minutes.