yeah, it really is about how they use it
I had a friend, some guy i met on craigslist back on october actually.
well he was pretty big, but fucking terrible at it
he wondered why all I wanted to do was go down on him
"cause you cant bang, honey, its boring"
lol, I dont even answer his emails anymore
masochist ? me ? naa. i mean I have certain switchy tendencies, but not too big on pain. I sure like "administering" cbt though