Kate chose not to obey

[bodie]

In today's royal wedding,  Kate Middleton decided she will not
'obey' her husband!

What?  I don't blame her...seriously,  in a modern marriage,
why should only the wife promise to alway's 'obey' her
husband.

The old fashioned, traditional vows are

 Both parties say   To have and to hold from this day forward,
                          for better for worse,
                          for richer for poorer,
                          in sickness and in health.

 Groom only        To love and to cherish, till death us do part.

 Bride  only         To love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part


Just wonder what you  think.  Me, i am not, never was, never will be wed, so it doesn't
matter to me really but if i absolutely had to get married i would also omit the 'obey.'

Princess Diana did not 'obey'    i think the last royal 'obey' was the Queen herself to The Duke
of Edinburgh.  The Duchess of York (fergie) obviously did not obey, but she added
a silent one herself  'i promise to fleece thee'

[Osensitive1]

Yes. Didn't think people did the obey bit anymore.

[midlifeaspie]

I thought the Bride and Groom vows went the other way. 

Only the Groom says obey. 

That's what my wife told me anyway. 

[Icequeen]

 

If you want someone to obey you, get a dog.

[Osensitive1]

Did the newlywed's vows also include the part about forsaking all others?

[DukeNukem]

And what makes the royal wedding such a significant event?

[Adam]

Of course the obey thing is ridiculous and outdated, but then the whole thing is  - I mean I saw the vows part afterwards on the news and whatshisname, the pope-reject with the hat... C of E guy... canterbury... he went "and who gives this woman to this man?" or something like that

the entire concept of marriage is inherently sexist as it's about passing on posession of a woman and everythign she "owns" , from her father to her husband. hence the "giving her away" crap. If I was a woman and getting married I'd be a bit weirded out by that kinda thing I think

so yeah the obey stuff is out of date, but so is the whole thing really

[bodie]

yes i agree a right load of bollox

Jack -  the 'obey' is an option in the Church
of England Ceremony,  therefore still can be used
but only rarely is.  My Mum chose to obey but that
was over fifty years ago.

I think the civil ceremonies are the more popular
choice and you can write your own vows and
not mention the word 'god' once.  Much better
IMO as you can actually really mean what you say.

[Semicolon]

We Americans chose not to obey.

[Celticgoddess]

I like to see signs of someone knowing their own mind and standing up for that. Good for her for not saying "obey" as I think it is outdated, for anyone. I'm not anti-marriage though even given my own rather awful experience with it. It's about the person it's with and even though people say marriage doesn't change anything, I think it does. Seems to add more permanency to it. Hard to put into words.

[midlifeaspie]

We Americans chose not to obey.

I don't think I am allowed to choose not to obey

[Semicolon]

We Americans chose not to obey.

I don't think I am allowed to choose not to obey

Lit would disagree.

[midlifeaspie]

We Americans chose not to obey.

I don't think I am allowed to choose not to obey

Lit would disagree.

Lit isn't married to my wife 

[Semicolon]

We Americans chose not to obey.

I don't think I am allowed to choose not to obey

Lit would disagree.

Lit isn't married to my wife 

Since your wife isn't a 15-year-old virgin with a love of ATM, he probably wouldn't be interested.

[Celticgoddess]

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