Also a marriage which is recognised by the state should have absolutely NO religious connotations at all
mine didnt have any. I got married by a judge 
When I was a child, back in the 1970s, we had a guest celebrant at Mass once, a monsignor who talked about the "hippie"
weddings being chosen by Catholic youth who should have known better because after all they'd been raised in the Church!
I still remember the contempt with which he said
"Barefoot in the backyard, with a justice of the peace!" 