Thanks for this thread Schleed.
I'm moving in an opposite direction.
From a very young age saw way too many shades of grey.
I was aware from age 6 or 7 that I would never be able to know if someone thought or saw the same as I did. Did have my rigidity though.
I've been raised with lots of patience, in a very sweet way. My parents always were prepared to show me a different possible perspective on a rigid view I had. So, I became a "rigid" looker for as much as perspectives as possible. I am a master in finding possible parameters in someone's thinking, and can think up possible perspectives with those parameters as a starting point. I am always aware that I might be wrong, and that there is another perspective possible.
Made it really hard for me to stand up for my own ideas and thinking, made it hard to know what I was thinking or what I wanted. Made it hard to stand up for my rights, I could think up the wants of the other way too good. Made it hard to be cuntish. On top of that, I was a perfectionist, so very afraid to make a mistake. Not helpful in a situation like that.
But, learning. And that is about time.
Having a teenage kid, and another on the brink of being a teenager helps. You have to be firm and aware of your own needs to get through that.
I was extreme the other way. And that is not a way that leads to friendships either. Made myself a doormat. And I am way too good for that.