I don't see it that way. When my husband and I got married, we talked about the children we eventually wanted to have. I wanted us to have at least one girl and my husband wanted at least one boy. Our family didn't turn out that way. I had endometriosis, so I had surgery to free up adhesions before I got pregnant with our daughter and we had fertility treatments to try for a second child, including another laparoscopic surgery to remove a large endometriosis cyst on one of my ovaries, which had been made worse by the fertility treatments. While I would happily welcome any child my husband and I had and I would never abort a child because it was the "wrong" gender, I don't see wanting a child of one gender or the other as equating to having an unhealthy fixation on the genitalia of our children.