Well, I didn't actually do this right, it just happened this way. PA was the first guy who asked me to marry him. Hell, he was the first guy I'd had more than 5 dates with. We were almost 35 (me) and 43 (PA). We'd never lived with anyone, never been married before and were mature enough that we were mostly grown in our opinions, values and attitudes. Our marriage isn't a bed of roses, but it's definitely a very large bouquet of life.