Is it gay to hold a door open for a guy?

[Nomaken]

This almost makes me want to hold a door open for a girl, and then flirt with her when she walks by, just out of morbid curiosity.

I support this experiment.

[McGiver]

This almost makes me want to hold a door open for a girl, and then flirt with her when she walks by, just out of morbid curiosity.

I support this experiment.

dittoed.

[McGiver]

Post the pics here (as McJ would say).

Dittoed²

[techstepgenr8tion]

If you wink at him suggestively and stare at his ass as he walks passed you.... absolutely not. 

[Beowulf]

I hold doors for anyone no matter what their sex, its just politeness.

You don't strike me as the type of person to actually think something like that would make you gay Beowulf, so I'm kinda confused what point you were trying to make with this topic

There was no point. It was just a question.
I think. I can't remember.

It was just an inane question about social etiquette that popped into my mind while at work.

I think I should have asked, "is it emasculating ...?"

I should expand on this ...
Now, if you see someone 20 yards behind you holding a drink, you might feel obliged to hold the door open for them while you wait for them to catch you up, whereas you might not if they were not holding a drink.

So, if the person behind you has their hands free, then there is probably some distance beyond which it becomes more sensible to let the door swing (or slam) than to stand there holding it. I know that often if I am the person several yards behind, I feel compelled to jog lightly to catch up the person in front in order help the person in front make up their mind, and to make sure that they are not left standing there holding the door beyond a sensible number of seconds.

This sensible distance might be greater for a woman than for a man. If you decide to hold a door open for a man who is, say, 20 yards behind you, he might think, "I can open the bloody door myself, you know".

Ah well, it's not important.

[Draggon]

No, of course not; it's just common courtesy.

But I thought common courtesy was pretty gay too? :p
at least that is the way it seemed in high school

[duncvis]

Thats cos high school kids are in a contest to see who can be the biggest shithead.

[QuirkyCarla]

I agree. High school kids suck.

[purposefulinsanity]

Thanks for expanding on that a bit Beowulf, I know what you're getting at now (it was the gay comment that threw me off).  There's been plenty of times when I'm stood there wondering whether or not someone is too far away for me to hold the door for them- in some cases its pretty obvious that I should just wait (e.g. if the person is carrying a lot of bags,  has a pushchair or is elderly), but in others I have wondered what is the distance away someone can be before it becomes weird waiting and holding the door for them.

[SovaNu]

i hate situations like that. it feels so awkward to hold the door if the person is really far away... same with elevators but at least i have a fear of sticking my hands between the doors so i couldn't hold those open for someone anyway... if you read Dilbert, there are some good jokes about social awkwardity.

[McGiver]

how about the situation where, when you hold the door open for one person (to be polite), then eseveral other groups of people begin to 'double time' it anfd you are left holding the door for five minutes.
after the first, i generally say, "oops, sorry 'bout that."  as the door swings shut on their using arses.

[QuirkyCarla]

I should try that.

[Crusader]

Yes it is gay if you hold a door for somebody, and as such you are committing a grave sin.

[Callaway]

Yes it is gay if you hold a door for somebody, and as such you are committing a grave sin.

 

You don't actually believe this, do you Crusader?

Did you believe the other stuff either, or were you just being controversial?

[Lucifer]

just being a twat, basically, callaway.

i wouldn't bother giving it any attention, as that's obviously what the moron craves.