it might well be a bullshit philosophy (and i agree with you), but it's fucking difficult trying to go against all one's childhood conditioning. for me, that meant i would leave school, get a bit of a job, and then get married and have babies. people started looking at me funny by my early twenties, cos i wasn't engaged. there was Talk at my younger sister's first wedding, cos i didn't even have a boyfriend at that time - it just wasn't normal or natural for a woman not to have a partner. people still look at me a bit funny now.
in other words, it was (and is still, in some quarters) considered odd not to have a partner: single-dom was (is) not the natural order of things.
other than that, i know my life would be easier in some ways (and more diffcult, i'm sure) if i had a partner. so i don't give a fuck - i'd very much like to be in a relationship, please.