Banned again from WP

[Scrapheap]

Couold someone with any intellect explain to me how someone could sue for libel over something posted on a forum?

Then we can go back to the icecreams and seagulls.

Ooh, this is rich!! 

[Frolic_Fun]

close..chihuahua

Looks similar to my dog, although she's staying with my dad. Was stuck minding her after my mother got depression.

[The_Chosen_One]

looks similar to a Pomeranian. Maybe Chihuahuas are related.

[Frolic_Fun]

Long haired chihuahuas are more of a mixed breed, looking more like tiny terriers. Short haired ones look a lot more different and rat-like.

[Adam]

I wanna kiss her little furry face 

(not in a creepy way though)

[RageBeoulve]

steve-o, i actually recently learned the reason for their high legs. its very cool

i also found out that, while normal spiders (who often live on surfaces, walls, etc) will flee a long way, and hide well, if scared
the daddy-long leg (who lives in brush and grass) will only flee a few centimetres, probably since in nature, that would be far enough. theyll be well hidden by the grass, where a normal spider is used to having to flee further, and hide better.

i love experimenting

Did you know these little guys fart in self defense? True story, bro.

[kaileen]

close..chihuahua

Looks similar to my dog, although she's staying with my dad. Was stuck minding her after my mother got depression.

awwwwwwwwwwwwwww yes they look similar.
she's so cuuuuuute

[midlifeaspie]

my last thought of the night, alex is scammer. the ads on his website pay for it so what does he need donations for? when i was a donating member i thought he couldnt pay for his board. had i known he could, i would have never donated. then when i found out about the comment s that john robison made about how if the wrongplanet members we donars alex wouldnt have to ask, for money to fund his film career. well holy shit. thats not my problem! i would never ask anyone to fund my sportscard collection, or rock fetish

your intrests, career is your problem. not mine, or anyone elses for that matter

Reading this I have been struck by a wave of anger...Alex and his family live in a whole, different, world of ease and comfort to you and your family (or me for that matter). I don't know how he could live with taking money from you that he doesn't even need

Cuz we are Supportars!!!!1 

[midlifeaspie]

Meadow,

Before I even read through the thread, let me help you put your own head straight.

I don't have anything much to do with WP since I knew "Sinsboldly" was a mod. I saw her for what she was right off and I find the type best avoided...but, of course, since then, Alex gave me a ringside seat on a display of what a spoilt, egomaniac he has grown up to be...which is another type I find best avoided...and then for a grand finale, tried to sell us all out to Autism Speaks...which is one of those activities there is NO WAY BACK FROM as far as I am concerned.

BUT, because of the "Autism Speaks" situation I have had cause to monitor WP a little...now I do not pretend I was looking for mod abuses, because I wasn't, but, in the past DW-a-mum struck me as a very neutral sort of "non person" making up the numbers (though I thought the choice of a parent as mod was a BIT inappropriate, she seemed so pucillanimous and inoffensive it didn't matter). But I HAVE noticed her recently...and she seems like a totally different person...incredibly manipulative, controlling, and arrogant.

I am not psychic, I don't know why...maybe she was always a sockpupppet of Sinsboldly keeping power with a low profile...maybe she was a "deep cover" Autism Speaks shill who now feels more confident...maybe she hit the menopause and found her husband in bed with the next door neighbour in the same week...but this is NOT a normal average decent person and I feel sorry for anyone she targets.

But don't fall into the trap of judging the rest of humanity by her. Trust me, she is not representative.

Unfortunately the Aspie boards ARE going through a nasty period at present, connected to all sorts of internal and external politics...but politics won't have this lot here even if they beg, so you should be ok...

I don't hang out as such because:

• I am a schizoid Aspie, and "hanging out" has less appeal than washing the car most of the time
• I clash badly with a few people here and in the light of the above life is really, SERIOUSLY, too short

 

But a lot of the "power" around here is in good, decent hands, and the certainly will not let anyone impose WP type headgames on you...so give 'em a chance?

WP is a toxic environment now...that is NOT normal, so don't tar the whole world with the same brush?

More blah blah blah

[midlifeaspie]

There are places she can go besides here.
In here so long as I guess she realises what this is and isn't she may find it easier on herself in adapting to the culture.
www.intensitysquare.com is the front page to this forum and outlines what this place is and isn't.
If she is expecting it to be vastly different she is letting herself down I think.
If she takes on the combative expectation and the backing words and whatever....well, I dunno.
It depends on her ultimately and what she is hoping out of it but I don't think these guys are gonna change for her.

Absolutely, and I don't think they are going to change for her either, I doubt if she expects them to, she came in to learn for herself as she should...

The "idea" of somewhere you can fit in is very seductive, it's a promise of a sense of safety and validation (even in the form of people chucking cuss words at each other), and when it ends in yet another place you could never belong, it can be pretty crushing. But that doesn't mean anyone is going to change to fit you, or that you can change to fit in. If you don't belong, you don't belong and there is nothing you can do about it...but it does only mean that you don't belong, not that there is anything wrong with you, or the place.

I figured this stuff out pretty young, but it took a lot longer to have the confidence to let go and live by it it in a world that tries to sell you on "belonging" at all costs as though air to breath was only a close second.

I'll live out my own life in some very dark, frightening and hopeless places, because that is the hand I was dealt in terms of who I am, the things I have lived through and learned, and the options available to me.

I can understand why anyone would find that an uncomfortable downer they can live well without, and I should avoid bothering people with it...but, in turn, pretending to be someone else to fit in would be too much to ask of myself, and not even worth it...

But, regardless, my reality is just the hand I was dealt and the person I am, not a plea for sympathy, or some kind of sin I committed, and, as such, telling  it is my only real alternative to being a liar...and the same goes for Meadow, or anyone.

Also good

[midlifeaspie]

I've had my chest cavity layed open with a knife. Not childbirth, but it might have killed me. 

Lot's of things might have killed me...mind you I am not sure how I would have coped with that...even thinking about it in the movie "Blood Work" squicks me out completely...but that is NO guarantee you would handle childbirth...so be careful what you wish for...

Also I don't care if you're male or female. If you're an adult, hardening up and getting on with your life is the only way, unless you're just a loser that accepts defeat and winds up mooching off the government or something. Life goes on, and society isn't set up for people who are too weak to go with it.

But see, to me, the weak ones are the ones that haven't got the stuff to try and change society for the better for everyone...that is accepting REAL defeat...and telling yourself that Society (with all it's faults, failings, cruelties, injustices and anathema) is right, and you, and all you know, and all you are, is wrong, and worthless.

I didn't realise you were working...do you mind if I ask what you do?

I thought the weak ones spent their time whining but not actually doing anything?

[midlifeaspie]

Ah Rage isn't on my block list either...I just don't quite know what to say to him except that if I were in his shoes I'd want to do a BIT more research on what things are before committing myself to being able to recover from them, in case the fates thought it would be fun to put me to the test...and they DO that stuff...

Like I say, not my community, and not for me to even presume to request change...but I DO think the "hardening up" argument is fatally flawed...most of us get enough punishment quite spontaneously to "harden" us up and drive us to retreat to the edge of pseudo psychopathy (and, in some cases, clean over it) anyway...this sort of stuff only reinforces that, and I cannot see how that is a good thing, overall, and in the long term.

Pseudo psychopathy is painless, but it is also, isolating, very, VERY boring...and, as an afterthought, not totally "humanity friendly".

I can do "hard" in a good cause, but I would honestly rather die than harden up the whole way, even with my life at stake...because half of me could not live with the hybrid thing I would become...

Now that is just me for sure...and I am something of a special case because half my family are clinically psychopathic and the whole family dynamic was always built around their mindset...that was the first "normal" I knew...and just like anyone else, I had to do a proper rebellion as soon as I hit puberty...

Is that the same, or at least similar, under more normal circumstances?

Search me, I think that is for each individual to decide for themselves, but I cannot, in my guts, think it will ever bring out the best in ANYBODY to take on a role that is exclusively devoted to, essentially, attacking and hurting others...it gets to be a habit, like a drug, and leaves no room for the good stuff like compassion, or even joy...that is surely like volunteering to have the better half of yourself amputated...

[midlifeaspie]

The irony in this is that whilst this place is far from a support forum and never styled itself as such, at least here as rough and tumble as it is. There is at least an amount of honest here and not the same hypocrisies, underhanded sneakiness and deceptiveness of other boards purporting to be support forums.

...there is a certain amount of hypocrasy, sneakiness and underhandness "creep" from the other forums though I am afraid...inevitable...

Nah, if you look back you'll will see that earlier in the thread I signed off on I2 as a ok place where I personally have too many serious personality clashes to be worth it to a schizoid Aspie. Also I am personally not comfortable with the aggressiveness here, and the "toughen up for the sake of it" ethos...but that's a value judgement, about me, and what suits me, like the one I make about boiled carrots, harsh lighting and white cars...it's not some big *moral* *disapproval* thing...it's all about me and my tastes and my needs. If people tell me they need something different I am happy to take their word for it. Which, BY THE WAY, was what socialising was supposed to be about last time I checked. 

Also, I am coming to realise that I am actually a very serious person with no capacity to share or participate in other people's idea of "fun" in my own right (I can play along if I have to, but that's not the same thing)...I am a minefield of serious, involuntary, PTSD and most has more political emotional triggers than personal ones (I know that is deeply weird, but this is *ME* I am talking about, so what do you expect?) which means my whole system of reflex and default priorities is totally alien and incompatible (trans: tends to spoil everybody else's fun)...

I think Meadow may end up very like me in some ways, but I think it is too soon for her to get there yet...if I had faced and resigned myself so young I would have missed a hell of a lot of pain and stress, but I would also have "missed the dance".

(Not that there is much chance of Meadow resigning herself while PPK does such a STERLING PR job for the human race!    )

[midlifeaspie]

Is this someone pretending to be fucked up?

Funny, I am starting to get that feeling myself...

Incidentally, I WAS, technically, gang raped when I was thirteen and it seemed distinctly different from here to me,  but that MAY depend on who you get gang raped by?

(I LURVE playing "I was abused" poker...I can ALWAYS raise 'em...and then some )

Poor baby

[midlifeaspie]

I have never heard of Buttcoffee. Anyway, I'm beyond being able to care anymore about people. They are always there to mock something I say, and I'm to think that's funny, right? I had a retard mother like that who mocked every word that came out of my mouth because it sounded more like a text book and that was a major threat to her sensibilities and she hated me for it with a passion even though I couldn't help being the way I was and tried everything in my power to gain her love, respect and approval. It wasn't to ever happen. She's a retard with a "conduct disorder", not unlike Temple Grandin had but without the education and training. You do the math. She took it out on my body on a daily basis because I was "different" than she was. She thought I was smart, but in fact I had many cognitive challenges despite what my gifts and talents suggest. So, I don't take very keenly to any retard, particularly the evil retard, who needs a lot of schooling and training to control their conduct. I never did need that sort of training. I was hyperlexic and that sort of class and character came to me naturally. I have a right to my anger, which I have finally reached. And with people of this nature and character, it is an open invitation to spew their innately evil characteristics and traits because they are beyond any ability to understand or comprehend when a given person has a right to be angry in the face of this sort of mockery and mistreatment and respond to it in a like manner. I don't care anymore.

Look the guys weren't mocking you, and I can't...everything you are saying cuts to close for that...but just being beyond being able to care isn't a reason to abuse someone...

We should "motherswap" for a week...

Mine is WAY smarter...she would go to incredible lengths to convince me that I was useless at anything I am good at...and has literally sat me down and said whatever she had to to convince me that every person she was ever aware I knew couldn't stand me...and was better of without me...(basically so I never went visiting and tripped and of the lies she lives by)

I was just so used to it for so long I took it in without seeing what she was doing (I knew she was a psychopath, I knew she had no conscience, for thirty years, but somehow I missed the details of how that had worked, day by day, until I saw her again recently)...end result...no matter what I know intellectually, I will never ever be able to really believe that there is anyone in the world who isn't better off without me...and there is nothing anyone can tell me to fix that, and the more someone matters the more I feel obliged to "let them off the hook"...it's the only way i ever learned to think in 53 years..

I have my middle Grandaughter's new emo page open in another browser...first contact...EVER in 14 years...and I can't feel that it would be right for me to approach her and just tell her I care (ok, and that 14 is WAY TOO YOUNG to tag yourself "sexy emo chick" on a public board ) because I am conditioned to believe she is better off without me.

Believe me, you did NOT corner the market on freaky parents...but it wouldn't help me to see my mother as a "retard"...because it takes one hell of a lot more than a retard to do *ME* that much damage...just as it took one hell of a lot more that a retard to do it to you...

You are NO RETARD...and you are not even CLOSE to substandard enough to need TRAINING to respect other people, particularly whenh they are the kind who will just feel more comfortable themselves if you slip up and make a few mistakes...you ca use self control for that...

But if the only use you have for people is to abuse them the way your mother abused you, then you really need to stay away from them.

Saving for posterity