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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #15 on: June 15, 2010, 03:59:53 AM »
I did't admit to myself that I was trans till I was 17

I think admitting it to yourself is actually the hardest thing
if you don't feel ok with telling your friend then just dont. maybe with time that will change, but there's no need to rush into tellig everyone if youre not sure about how theyll react. hopefully theyll react well tho.


I think you might be right about admitting it to yourself being the hardest bit. Deep down I always wanted to do the whole normal life thing, get married and have a couple of kids. I've always loved babies and I've alqways got on really well with young kids. I find them easier to get along with than adults. I really wanted to be a mum someday. Admitting this to myself means admitting to myself that none of that is likely to happen.
I definately won't be rushing into telling people in my town. There's an openly gay couple and a guy that everyone says is gay but he isn't "out." The gay couple were bullied out of their house, and the guy who might be gay can't walk down the street without having kids shout abuse at him. His windows have been smashed aswell and his car tyres have been slashed a lot of times.
This is a very religious town, and very homophobic. I like to be anonymous, but if I were to be openly gay I would be the talk of the town. Everyone would know who I am. The thought of dealing with what those other people have had to deal with makes me pretty sure I'll keep this a secret as long as I can.

I grew up in a small town in Ayrshire, and although I was too young at the time to notice, my mum hated all the gossiping that went on about her marriage problems with my dad.  When I was 8, my parents divorced and I moved to an even smaller village with my mum, and although I don't think there was gossip about marriage issues, there was still an uncomfortable 'everyone in everyone else's business' feeling to the place.  I wouldn't want to be known as being different in any small town or village, religious or not.  Things are better now that we live in a suburb just outside of Glasgow; people mostly mind their own business and it's easy to be fairly anonymous here.
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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #16 on: June 15, 2010, 06:22:21 AM »
"You need to live out your own truth, whatever that may be"

That's something I try to live by. When you make peace with yourself, it makes the journey a lot easier, no matter what path you're on.

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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #17 on: June 15, 2010, 06:26:56 AM »
I don't think I could adopt. I think they have some kind of psychological test for people who want to adopt. I would certainly fail. If I ever was in a gay relationship and still living in this country I don't think it would be fair to have children anyway, the abuse they'd be subjected to in school would probably be horrendous. It wouldn't be right of me to put anybody through that.
I knoiw I could never raise a child by myself. The only way I could bring up a child properly would be if I had a partner who was for more sensible and responsible than myself.


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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #18 on: June 15, 2010, 06:41:17 AM »
nothing matters but who you love and how. forget what your family thinks. good on you for being "straight" with yourself.

as for adoption. i'd choose to have gay parents if that meant i would get open minded caring parents. don't sell your kids short.
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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #19 on: June 15, 2010, 06:47:55 AM »
nothing matters but who you love and how. forget what your family thinks. good on you for being "straight" with yourself.

as for adoption. i'd choose to have gay parents if that meant i would get open minded caring parents. don't sell your kids short.

 :agreed: Most kids get picked on for one thing or another by their bitchy little peers;
 if they have strong support elsewhere (from a wonderful mum, for instance), they can get through it OK.
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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #20 on: June 15, 2010, 07:13:36 AM »
we tend to think what good are we, but really, there are kids who need parents who love them. don't care about being gay. i was picked on, i didn't have gay parents. if you get picked on you do, what you need is a strong home that supports you. you're not who gets your kids picked on, it's society. if you teach your kids to be accepting and smart and wise, you've done your job. that's what i'd ask of my parents.
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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #21 on: June 15, 2010, 11:20:31 AM »
You're not gay, you're a lesbian. Women can't be gay unless they mean happy.


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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #22 on: June 15, 2010, 11:48:31 AM »
she's whatever she identifies as. if that's gay then she's gay

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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #23 on: June 15, 2010, 12:36:54 PM »
You're not gay, you're a lesbian. Women can't be gay unless they mean happy.



I didn't know that. I am a very happy person, so I suppose that makes me a gay lesbian ;)

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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #24 on: June 15, 2010, 02:51:06 PM »
Quote from: Kit link=topic=14144.msg607464#msg607464 =1276622431
You're not gay, you're a lesbian. Women can't be gay unless they mean happy.



I didn't know that. I am a very happy person, so I suppose that makes me a gay lesbian ;)

Wow. See what happens when you leave home? Now you're twice as gay you thought you were. :laugh:

Btw, you can say gay/lesbian it doesn't really matter.

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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #25 on: June 15, 2010, 06:58:58 PM »
Wouldn't it be the same as calling a waitress a waiter or a waiter a waitress or a widow a widower or a widower a widow?

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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #26 on: June 15, 2010, 08:32:49 PM »
Can't argue with good old semantics. Kit has a point.

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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #27 on: June 16, 2010, 04:40:51 AM »
I thought 'gay' was a unisex term.
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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #28 on: June 16, 2010, 06:05:42 AM »
I thought 'gay' was a unisex term.

Agreed. Over time it has come to mean more than one thing.

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Re: Admitting to myself that I'm gay
« Reply #29 on: June 16, 2010, 06:17:48 AM »
"You need to live out your own truth, whatever that may be"

That's something I try to live by. When you make peace with yourself, it makes the journey a lot easier, no matter what path you're on.


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