When the relationship gets serious and the silly jokes and small talk ends though, all the girls i've been with wound up finding me too serious all the time, or cold. Its a difficult thing for me to tackle.
Mmm, and then 'cold' comes off as withdrawing because your apparently not interested, or game playing. That's a hard one.
Oh I know. I am not very good at expressing things. I'll pick flowers for a girl. I'll cook a nice dinner. I'll go nuts when a cat walks up. But I guess i'm just missing something that lets people know I care. Maybe its my face, or the way I talk. I dunno.
Mmm...yes, I'm yet to figure it out.
And on top of that, everyone's different....go figure!
To me, wanting to physically touch someone....just in a non sexual way....generally is a
huge thing for me, and feels nice that they must mean so much that I want to touch them...
But, apparently, you have to back that up with the right facial expressions, non sarcastic comments (because they aren't as witty as you think
) and remember to do things like offer hospitality.