how have reactions to your being trans been irl btw? do you get comments off people when you go out or are you not openly trans in public?
I'm now more out in public. Not to everyone mind you. But a few key select people. And their reactions are generally positive and supportive. I haven't gotten any negative responses beyond maybe one or two people just brushing it aside.
I guess it's hard to be negative in person...Well at least for tactful non-autistic people
I'm panromantic, heteroattracted asexual (if you go by my current body, homoattracted if you use my gender). But it's also possible that I'm only asexual because of body dysphoria. It's not the right body so I can't fathom having sex with it.
But even then...I don't think sex would ever be a big deal to me.
As a girl I'm gay and I doubt that will change, but I am open to the possibility of also being attracted to some men. I don't know how likely that is, but hopes it's not likely. But I'm still open minded.
I wondered the same thing since you came out as trans. It surprises me that you don't know, either, though I suppose you have know way of knowing until you actually have made the change to the degree of completion that you want to.
What do you mean?
I guess I was surprised that you didn't feel more certain about how your being asexual relates to your being trans, but then realized you coudln't be 100% sure until you changed your body to whatever degree of completion you're aiming for (I forget what that is and can't be arsed to look it up- I thought for awhile you weren't even going on hormones, but that's changed now, so I decided not to make assumptions).
Whilst I can have a (non-sexual) relationship with anyone of any gender, I'm normally attracted only to girls, or female-type people. Except recently, I've been able to "appreciate" how some guys appear. So..that's different.
I admit that I am selfish, however I won't ruin a relationship just to get my own way. Emma loves me for who I am, changing my sex would disturb her as she's not particularly into that thing. In other words, If I change sex then I'm subtley forcing her to accept something that she doesn't want.
If she loves you for who you are then it wouldn't matter if you changed sex. You'd still be you. And if you did want to change and you knew she couldn't handle it so you decide not to, isn't she subtly forcing you to accept something you don't want?
In my opinion, wasting money to change your appearance is pretty much silly. That money could be spent on far more useful and functional things.
Have you ever had a haircut? Bought some fancy new clothes?
I'm still wondering how the hell GA would afford much more than GA is currently doing.
What do you mean?
But changing your sex *is* pretending to be something you're not. He was born a male and should accept who he is. Trying to be female won't make a difference for him, apart from fufill his own selfish needs. Personally I don't identify with a lot of males myself, but I feel no need to change sex because of that.
The same thing could be said for a lot of things - AS for example. A lot of us have it, but live with it - trying to fight it or change it won't do anything.
You're argument is flawed. If we shouldn't try to fight AS, then why should I fight GID? I have a desire, innate, in built, to be female. To be treated as female. Should I just accept this, who I am? Or should I fight it? And who except what I was born with?
Yes, it must be extremely hard for Ren. Will be hard for GA too, but, GA is the one in control here. And Ren isn't. That is theirs to deal with. And yes, it would probably have been convenient had GA realised sooner. But how is hindsight wisdom going to help. Doesn't change a thing in the present.
It was the hardest decision I've ever had to make. And yes I'm the cause of massive instability in renaeden's life. I feel like shit. Like the worst person.
But how can I expect her to love me, if I don't? How can I expect anyone to love me, if I don't love myself?
The problem isn't that they were born as the "wrong" gender. I know a person who was pretty masculine but then "changed" gender through surgery. Now "she" is looking for girls(!)
Every She is allowed to be a lesbian.
Of course. I just find it peculiar that a male would like to be surgically changed into a female to become it.
Transgenderism/Transsexualism has nothing to do with sexuality.
Some of the things GA has done in his marriage (that I've heard of) have been rather douchey, but the sex change thing is IMO an issue of unfortunate self-realization.
Such as?