Indeed. I used to think this way too. I had the chance to have an affair with a really good sort when I was working for a bank. My wife was looking after my newborn son and not overly exciting and she seemed everything my wife simply wasn't. We had a Sundowner (Christmas work do) organised. I made assurances I would attend to this girl. She said she would wear something nice. I found a better job and kept in semi contact with her. Far as I know she attended the Sundowner. I decided not. I had a wife and child. Things went to shit with the wife (now ex) and I often wondered about the what ifs in me throwing cation to the wind.
I know that same choices again and knowing the result I would probably still make the identical decisions.
yeah, i wouldn't cheat on my wife since she isn't cool with it.
it is just that recently i made contact with the girl that i dated just before i met my wife. she was awesome. perfect for me in every way. but she had to quit college and move back home (northern california) because of some medical condition that i forget about. we traveled to see each other several times for about six months. meanwhile, at the three month point i started casually seeing my current wife. after six months the other girl sent me a dear john letter saying that she had gotten pregnant by another guy and was preparing to marry.
a few months later i knocked up my wife and did the same thing.
good news is that she is still married with three children, just like me. and is happy, just like me. i just wonder if chance had looked differently at us if we could have been equally, if not happier, than we are now.
