i would like to applaud two members

[McGiver]

Don't worry You aren't the first person to be offended at the lack of replies I give. Its not because I don't appreciate them, more because I put things off, and just don't reply because of ADD crap.

Example one is my mother. I don't ring her or reply to texts nearly as much as I should. I think "I can do it later" and it keeps getting put off.
Example two is I never tidy my room. There is craft mess everywhere.
Its also the reason my site hasn't taken off as much as It could have.
Also I don't respond to lit much on msn, i don't really like MSN and the person i really went on it for has moved overseas now.

So please be assured, you aren't alone, and I am sorry if you have been offended by lack of replies.

i wonder if there is a way that we can put postits on posts that we want to reply to later in case we forget to.  there must be a mod for that.  if not, then lets invent one.  i do this all the time.

[Al Swearegen]

so you think it's only possible to either hold a grudge against someone or just  be completely won over by them? no in-between? surely me and bint are not that scary?

how about just moving on and not being so immature about a dumb internet argument?  you seem to find it really hard to get over something that small

(this is not me trying to either start another argument or ask you to be nice to me btw... just a little advice from someone who has also had similar problems moving on)

No its possible to hold a grudge for as long as I deem it necessary for myself, and make an informed choice based on the reasons I have to drop it or not. You and Bint scary? Damn, in what universe, is that? Bit rich pulling the immaturity card, it is a personal choice and ideology that seems to differ from yours and this doesn't make it immature but does make it different from your perspective and others. Different sure, immature? No.

"Moving on" means different things to different people. It may mean not actively putting shit on you, it may mean suspending judgment, It may mean becoming bestest friends, it may mean seeing you as an important element to this whole site. It is a bit of a coverall and doesn't really say a lot.

Thanks for the advice all the same Soph. Will keep it in the back of my mind or something.

In the end it's a message board, nothing more. If things go to shit again, it creates more drama and more posts, and a new flamewar. In the mean time, the board could be about other things, though.

It does and being able to react on issues and people is I think part of what makes this board great. I am not going to pussyfoot around anyone (flamewar or not). I do post about other things and will continue to post about other things so I guess this behaviour of mine endorses your point, in which case I say "No worries. Glad to be of service".
However I guess to you do not have issue with my honest appraisal of things nor me speaking my mind without censor? If so again, no worries.

c'mon les! aren't you too old to hold grudges?  no one would think that you are a sucker for taking the high road.

Never too old McJagger. One thing I learned about people is everyone is an individual. As a spazz I know that in life the "turning the other cheek" (whilst noble and considered "mature") was often the best way to get hit from behind (figuratively or not) by people who were used to getting away with shit that people that turned the other cheek would let them get away with. I call it like I see it and I have no issue in not relaxing my values or stubbornness nor tenacity or anything else.

As to the whole investment thing. What investment? I spend most of my online time bouncing from board to board and chatting on IM. I have not yet been crying into my breakfast over anything that goes on here or elsewhere. The day I do is the day I turn of my computer, disconnect the wires and use it therein as a door prop. Consider if I mentioned anything in context with a workmate. (ie "Oh the other day, right, I was on this forum called I2, right. Plenty of people I know superficially online and whatever. Then this one person said X to me! I said Y and then you wouldn't believe it they said Z. What do you think of that?"
Think about it? What do you think the workmate would say? They would be right. So yeah I think I got a healthy handle on emotional investment here.

[McGiver]

i certainly have not walked a mile in your shoes.  therefore i render no personal judgement against you.  my post was a simple plea to lighten up a bit.

once again i don't know what makes you you, therefore i respect your right to be you.

[SleepyDragon]

Don't worry You aren't the first person to be offended at the lack of replies I give. Its not because I don't appreciate them, more because I put things off, and just don't reply because of ADD crap.

Example one is my mother. I don't ring her or reply to texts nearly as much as I should. I think "I can do it later" and it keeps getting put off.
Example two is I never tidy my room. There is craft mess everywhere.
Its also the reason my site hasn't taken off as much as It could have.

Shit a brick!!!  I think you and I must be related. 

[Adam]

here's a picture of my dog ice skating...

 

btw i agree about not holding grudges. i have no big problem with anyone here

if only there was a lick of truth to this...

 eh?

[Al Swearegen]

i certainly have not walked a mile in your shoes.  therefore i render no personal judgement against you.  my post was a simple plea to lighten up a bit.

once again i don't know what makes you you, therefore i respect your right to be you.

All good mate. I do enjoy this kind of banter. Questioning, debating and even heated arguments. After a day at work it is not an emotional drain it is motivating and fun. Whilst most of my points can come across as harsh or combative I am not all frown and misery I am just reactive, opinionated and arrogant. Not to say I am not serious or that I don't mean what I say at all just not invested emotionally in the discussions.

[punkdrew]

soph and bint.

i am very impressed with how you have been conducting yourself on the board as of late.

i think that it is unwise for people to hold grudges against other people for stupid shit.  i think it is time for the members here to notice how well they are doing and get over the past. 

QFT.