My husband is scared of being an aspie

[renaeden]

you're married spo? wtf

It happened in June.

You barely said anything about it iirc.

Does your husband already have diagnoses?

[Natalia Evans]

What's IIRC?


I guess I am not as open as I thought I was.


No my hubby isn't diagnosed. He is diagnosed with other things.

[renaeden]

IIRC = If I Recall Correctly.

What other diagnoses does your husband have (I already knew it wasn't Asperger's)?

[DukeNukem]

What's IIRC?


I guess I am not as open as I thought I was.


No my hubby isn't diagnosed. He is diagnosed with other things.

Like homosexuality?

[El]

So many traits, can relate to me, used to be a lot like me, he is scared he could have it.

I ask him "What is there to be afraid of?"

"Then there be another thing wrong with me"

I tell him "Even if you do have it, you still have it before the label."

  For seeing the pragmatic side of the issue.   

[Natalia Evans]

IIRC = If I Recall Correctly.

What other diagnoses does your husband have (I already knew it wasn't Asperger's)?

Nasal disease
His bad feet
Dyslexia
Two other learning disabilities
Dysplaxia (brain damage)
Partial complex seizures

[renaeden]

IIRC = If I Recall Correctly.

What other diagnoses does your husband have (I already knew it wasn't Asperger's)?

Nasal disease
His bad feet
Dyslexia
Two other learning disabilities
Dysplaxia (brain damage)
Partial complex seizures

I guess it is no wonder he doesn't want another dx!

[Natalia Evans]

This gets better, he also has issues with balance and sensory issues and he also has anxiety. He also had depression and still gets depressed every now and then.

But the medicine he is on for seizures, it helped with his anxiety and sensory issues. They're milder now.

Last night he's decided to self diagnose for me just so I get turned on. I don't know if he was serious or if it was just for that moment or if he actually thinks he has it.

[Adam]

AS diagnosis doesn't change whether you have it or not so I don't see it as a problem.

For me I'd like to be certain (or as certain as you can be) whether I have this or that.

I am diagnosed with AS but not sure if I have it tbh. If there was a way of finding out for definite, then I'd hope it turned out I did have AS. Not because I like it or want to have it lol, but because I'm still the same person regardless; having the diagnosis just puts a name to it so that you can deal with it better. I mean if you know what you have, you can do something about it.

[El]

AS diagnosis doesn't change whether you have it or not so I don't see it as a problem.

For me I'd like to be certain (or as certain as you can be) whether I have this or that.

I am diagnosed with AS but not sure if I have it tbh. If there was a way of finding out for definite, then I'd hope it turned out I did have AS. Not because I like it or want to have it lol, but because I'm still the same person regardless; having the diagnosis just puts a name to it so that you can deal with it better. I mean if you know what you have, you can do something about it.

*You* can 'do something about it' either way.  Depending where you live and what you have, if you put a name to something, you can get *help* with it.

[Natalia Evans]

AS diagnosis doesn't change whether you have it or not so I don't see it as a problem.

For me I'd like to be certain (or as certain as you can be) whether I have this or that.

I am diagnosed with AS but not sure if I have it tbh. If there was a way of finding out for definite, then I'd hope it turned out I did have AS. Not because I like it or want to have it lol, but because I'm still the same person regardless; having the diagnosis just puts a name to it so that you can deal with it better. I mean if you know what you have, you can do something about it.

I've been there and it drove me crazy. I shouldn't have listened to my ex lol. But when you're told something over and over, you start believing it after a while. I didn't do it for attention but then when I got over it, I stopped. I finally went to a therapist. If I didn't have it, oh well. But I was surprised when I got told I do. So I figured if I really do have it, then it's very mild. I also quit caring about autism labels, PDD-NOS, AS and autism. Lot of times it feels like I don't even have it but my husband says I have it all the time. I just live it so that's why I don't see it. Plus I don't go wondering "is this an aspie thing I did?"

[Adam]

AS diagnosis doesn't change whether you have it or not so I don't see it as a problem.

For me I'd like to be certain (or as certain as you can be) whether I have this or that.

I am diagnosed with AS but not sure if I have it tbh. If there was a way of finding out for definite, then I'd hope it turned out I did have AS. Not because I like it or want to have it lol, but because I'm still the same person regardless; having the diagnosis just puts a name to it so that you can deal with it better. I mean if you know what you have, you can do something about it.

*You* can 'do something about it' either way.  Depending where you live and what you have, if you put a name to something, you can get *help* with it.

\That's what I meant. I am doing something about it. It would just be easier if I knew for certain what was wr0ng with me. I'm not using that as an excuse not to do anything about it though. I have made a lot of progress the last two years.