gripe of the day

[Lucifer]

does it entertain you?

the bottom line is that everybody is bound by their own perceptions of reality, their own biases and prejudices based upon lifes experience.  we all do what we do to get through our day.
so my theory is if, its ok with you and helps you get through your day, who am i to judge your actions.

i just think that there are levels of behaviour.  and its based upon my own perceptions.

that woiuld depend on who it was, and why i wanted to why them up.  i've done it with an ex of mine before, for the precisely the reason i mentioned - going at him directly would just giev his ego something to feed off, showing he still had the power to affect me and my life.  ignoring him - emails, phone calls, etc. - meant he wasn't worth responding to.  i bet his head blew off.  (the disadvantage, obviously, was that i never knew his reaction, but i'm pretty damned sure he would've been been incandescent with drustration, being mainly an Ego on legs).

i agree that there are - and should be - levels of behaviour.  it's what you have to have if you want to live in a community of people - society, or whatever.  if someone i gave any sort of a shit about was freaked out by my ignoring them, i'd probably take the time to explain myself.

[Lucifer]

i don't think another person can fuck someone else up.  where is the human spirit.  people allow themselves to be effected by anothers, mere, words.

i do think a parent can fuck up a child though, but not two grown adults.

you'd be very surprised, then.

[McGiver]

but adults have choices.

[Pyraxis]

The thing is (in my opinion) that people don't instantly become fully self-responsible the moment they hit 18 or 21 or whatever your age of majority of choice is. People grow up at different rates. There are a heck of a lot of grown adults who wander around acting just like children. Some who need a good smack to snap them out of it, but some where if you smack them, they'll just curl up and die cause they genuinely can't take it. That's when it becomes a question of how much do you believe in Darwin.

[McGiver]

i believe in accountability of the individuals, rather than the blame game.
people still choose.

even children, when they grow up they have options.  are they influenced, certainly.  are they doomed, certainly not.

[Pyraxis]

True. I'm not advocating the blame game, and I agree kids aren't doomed. I guess what I mean is that if I'm going to act on survival of the fittest, I'd rather call it what it is, instead of pretending that everyone can deal with everything.

[McGiver]

I'd rather call it what it is.

call it! 
i am curious because you threw out a buzz phrase that might lend support for few who have been vocal.  a rally call, iff you will.  but i doubt highly that it fits into your own set of values.  but it will give you support.

[Pyraxis]

What are you talking about? 

[McGiver]

you made an insinuation.  and it could fit nicely into one camp of the recent drama.  i doubt you agree with that side of the fence.

i want to know what you mean when when you say:

I guess what I mean is that if I'm going to act on survival of the fittest, I'd rather call it what it is, instead of pretending that everyone can deal with everything.

i want a concrete term.  what do you mean.

[Nomaken]

Hey, I just thought of something, mcjagger, if I say " +1  I am sucking your dick"  Rather than just "+1  " can i be exempt from the smite due to honesty?

[McGiver]

if you change your custom title to:  The Exception.

[Nomaken]

I think being an exception is implied with me.

[McGiver]

prove it to me and i will exempt you.

[QuirkyCarla]

totally agree. people who pretend nowts going on to your face while they're scheming away and whining about you out of sight are the most pathetic, spineless fuckers there are. I have zero respect for that kind of two-faced, cowardly behaviour. 

Ditto.

[odeon]

my gripe of the day is about bullies:

in particular, bullies who bully by exclusion or ignoring their prey.

i do not agree with any form of bullying, but i realize now that it is inevitable.  but if you are going to bully someone i think its best that you bully them to their face, that way they at least know where they stand with you.  its the honest approach.
those who bully in disguise or behind others backs is a cowards bullying tactic.

but to me, the absolute lowest form of bullying is by ignoring a person, not letting them know that you have a problem with them.  at least if you are bullying face to face, the two may come to an understanding since, then there is at least opportunity.  or the person being bullied may learn about themselves and change, if they so choose.

that is all.

Sounds an awful lot like what some people suggested should have been done with Flo.