"Teasing is great. Nothing wrong with that. I like a guy who gives me a run for my money because I'm sarcastic as hell. "
"Funny, witty, banter is entertaining and keeps me amused."
but why do so many women refuse to admit it? It would help the men on WP so much more if the women there were as honest as this.
I've said it on WP before. And I've bantered back and forth with guys over there for years.
Can a gentle aspie man become confident and outspoken, or is he doomed to stay how he is? I've had short periods where ive been forceful and assertive and direct, but i could never make it last.
I think you're confusing assertive and direct with being an asshole. There's a huge difference. I've seen evidence of the asshole side of you, and then the side of you which seems more true to form that is more emotional and caring (evident in your response to LB after she posted all your relationship drama on WP). You can't be someone that you're not. The best way to be successful is to be the best version of
yourself. If you try to be something/someon that you're not, you'll wear yourself down and it's exhausting to keep up a charade of somethng that doesn't feel natural to you.
I've always have a dominant personality, that's just my gig. Took me years to be able to feel comfortable enough with it though and be okay with it. But that's who
I am. I tried to not be that way, married a gentle Aspie guy, and 10 years and a couple of kids later, it all went south. We separated and I said enough was enough. I spent a decade being someone I'm not. Now I'm living my truth and life becomes way easier when you live that way. I didn't have to go looking for the right type of personality in a guy and go after him and try and be someone/something I'm not to get him to notice/like me. When you approach things like that, you have no truth to build things on and you're doomed.