i get what your saying, and being a norwegian, there exists virtually no fundamentalism here, yet a lot of people are christian. but even they imagine their lost ones in heaven, and even they imagine meeting them again etc.
i just cannot aggree with it, its like seeing a wall, and insisting that its an opened door, and trying to walk through it. its just un-do-able
and my point remains the same, if ANYONE, from moderate to priest, EVER wanted proofs for what they live for, they would be forever denied such.