Ha! Yeah. Though, what I think I 'won' with MLA was a pretty drastic change in his language to me. When he was, from my POV, calling me rude names, I don't care, there's no excuse & it just amused me. But when he switched to talking like a reasonable adult, I responded rather differently. Sure, tricky balance; not patronizing/ condescending, while not assuming, etc but, hey, I'm supposed to be able to do it. The rest is, indeed, miscommunications & them being 'vague' to me! (Spam seems to be able to mean any posts people don't like but doesn't explain why not, how I can tell, etc, as you covered). I think we covered most of the rest before. As soon as I get guidance I can actually understand, I can do something with it. OK, I have a weird/ childish sense of humor; I didn't choose that or how it'd work & it's better than not having one at all, supposedly. But I need those 2 threads finished, somehow? Must be a way to do it! (& at least you realize it's all subjective!)