My grandmother would grab me from home every two weeks, and work me like a dog. Mowing the lawn for 3 hours straight, with a pushing lawn mower, and then I decided to clean all the grass out from under the bottom for her. She didn't ask for that part, but she showed it to me. I did it everytime, more than she would herself. She she had me learn to use hedge trimmers. She would prune, and have me bend over about a thousand times to pick up the stuff. Everytime I tried to sit down and relax, she had another chore for me. Sometimes she would have me clean her house. I didn't shut up very long when I was there, I just talk talk talk. I did medical research for her to. She tried to give me some of her pills to, she was a major supplement user, just like me. She gave me a scoop of soy protein in the morning, then I may have decided to go walking with her. Friday was fish day, I didn't mind, ate anything including the kitchen sink. I went to church with her to, even though she wasn't forcing me to. Goldenseal for mouth sores, gave me hives. Many herbalist and doctors consider goldenseal toxic, but it was said that some of its components have promise. She kept my mom in line, but she is not their to protect me now, I had to learn and do it myself. I took the place of her, now my mom talks about her problems with me. I saw the red noise she used to get, I tried to warn her, impending cardiovascular risk. I warned her about a few other things to, am guessing she didn't feel the strenght to follow through. Somethings are tough, but those are the thing that build the most self confidence.