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[Adam]

half the time, people get banned and everyone's wondering where they went lol

i've seen that happen and no one bothered to explain till they heard it off the person on zomg 

[matthe]

im glad i never got into that place.

[odeon]

Never too late to join.

[Shareese/Ana54]

My friend MADDuck remarked that it didn't look like I was banned. I had to explain to him that there was a time for a while when the banned members got the little red x under their name and "Banned", but not anymore. So they still do it sometimes? It's really suspicious that they don't seem to do it to the ones who have posted more.

[Natalia Evans]

Yeah I have also gotten from one of my WP friends that I wasn't banned under likedcalico because it didn't say banned and have an X in it. So I had to take a screen shot and show it to her.
I can remember someone asking why don't all banned members have banned under their names and someone said their guess was when the words say banned, it was done by Alex. But I guess he doesn't do it anymore because I know he banned my calico account unless he told another mod to do it but why tell another mod to ban someone for you if you have the ability to do it yourself? Maybe the members don't get X's under their names anymore with the word banned. The last person I saw who had it was The Zach which was TheFace. He had few accounts there.

[The_Chosen_One]

Alex doesn't know half the shit that goes on there. When pandora got banned, she sent Alex an email, and he was more like 'what the?'. Didn't re-instate her, though. Those fucking mods there are too thin skinned, and seem to be sticking up for the real 'tards who need a cyber-slap up the side of their heads. What's the point having a support site that doesn't give REAL support and just encourages all the whiney shit?

Fuck 'em.

[Shareese/Ana54]

But isn't support encouraging people to whine (as in, get it all out)? Who have they not given real support to? I'm curious. Do you mean support for positive things too? If that's what you mean, I remember a lot of people on WP congratulating me when I got pregnant, and telling me "See? Things do get better." when I told them that Adverb was coming up to get me and that we would be living in his house with other WP members, turning it into an Aspie group home.


It was Sins Boldly who banned me... that might be why I didn't get a red x or "Banned" under my name.

[Adam]

getting things out is fine

doing nothing but whine aobut your life is annoying though, and not gonna help anyone

actively encouraging aspies to sit and whine about how shit their life is is closer to abuse than support, as most of us are too stupid to see what we're doing until someone points it out to us

[Shareese/Ana54]

But telling them off or being nasty to them for complaining is not only abusing them and making them worse, but also being a hypocrite.

[Adam]

what is being a hypocrite? how?

i don't tell people off for complaining

i mostly just ignore it actually, which i think is the best thing to do if you don't wanna get involved in a big load of shit

but some people are relentless and will just go on and on and on, expecting help/sympathy from people when they don't even bother contributing anything else (ie just having a laugh and talking to people about other things for a change)

then it's understandable if someone gets annoyed and tells them to grow some balls and shut the fuck up

most people go through a whiny phase in life, and a lot of the time they need their ass kicking out of it (not literally)

this is especially true for a lot of aspies (imo), and particularly the ones that get diagnosed late

i was DXed at 18 and after being a fairly keep-your-shit-to-yourself-and-don't-be-a-whiny-bastard teenager, i suddenly found out i had a reason for my problems, and felt this gave me an excuse to sit and moan about it with the other spazzes

this is the kind of shit that goes on on wp and it's unbelievably hard to get yourself out of because everyone else around you is either doing the same or encouraging it

when i come across someone like that now, i try to ignore it for their own sake and try getting them into talking about something else

but some people just won't fucking learn at all and need to be told to grow the fuck up

i don't treat people like shit for complaining, and if someone complains now and then then that's fine (and i will try and help them if i can), but i can think of plenty of examples of people who do NOTHING but complain as if everyone else wants to hear it

[Natalia Evans]

Everyone complains about things and we give them advice and they follow it or they don't but people who complain all the time and don't ever listen or try and solve their problems or find solutions to them, I find them real annoying. KenM is on the top of the list for that.

Or people complaining about problems that can't be solved such as the price of gas, or medical condition, people's ignorance or stupidity, I find that real annoying when all they do is bitch and moan about the same stuff. My ex did that. It was about the price of living and the price of gas and the price of eating. Everything he didn't like was "retarded." He even thought it was retarded when I made him pick up after himself to shut me up because he was a being a slob. I was not going to keep picking up after him or else he learn to not do it because I do it for him.

Everyone also complains about things that bothered them and that's okay because they want support and comfort and advice. But to keep complaining about it and never getting over it is annoying. I know I have been guilty of this a few times in my life so I try and not do it anymore. I know a very few people on WP who do that such as nightbender but I don't really read his posts because it's always whining. They're not as interesting as KenM's. Some peoples complaining is really boring and some others is entertaining. We need more KenMs on WP to make the place more fun

[Phlexor]

But telling them off or being nasty to them for complaining is not only abusing them and making them worse, but also being a hypocrite.

It's called tough love. Some problems take a lot of courage to get over and complaining about them will get you nowhere. Other problems are minor and hearing someone complain about them like it's the end of the world just pisses people off.

Then there are problems that are caused by the compplainer themselves and usually can be fixed by an attitude adjustment.

The real world is a scary and tough place, if you can't take the heat here, you aren't going to make it there.

[ProfessorFarnsworth]

But telling them off or being nasty to them for complaining is not only abusing them and making them worse, but also being a hypocrite.

It's called tough love. Some problems take a lot of courage to get over and complaining about them will get you nowhere. Other problems are minor and hearing someone complain about them like it's the end of the world just pisses people off.

Then there are problems that are caused by the compplainer themselves and usually can be fixed by an attitude adjustment.

The real world is a scary and tough place, if you can't take the heat here, you aren't going to make it there.

QFT 

I know from personal experience that in most cases, the best method to overcome a problem is to tackle it head on, instead of whining on about it.

[SleepyDragon]

Everyone complains about things and we give them advice and they follow it or they don't but people who complain all the time and don't ever listen or try and solve their problems or find solutions to them, I find them real annoying. KenM is on the top of the list for that.

Or people complaining about problems that can't be solved such as the price of gas, or medical condition, people's ignorance or stupidity, I find that real annoying when all they do is bitch and moan about the same stuff. My ex did that. It was about the price of living and the price of gas and the price of eating. Everything he didn't like was "retarded." He even thought it was retarded when I made him pick up after himself to shut me up because he was a being a slob. I was not going to keep picking up after him or else he learn to not do it because I do it for him.

Everyone also complains about things that bothered them and that's okay because they want support and comfort and advice. But to keep complaining about it and never getting over it is annoying. I know I have been guilty of this a few times in my life so I try and not do it anymore. I know a very few people on WP who do that such as nightbender but I don't really read his posts because it's always whining. They're not as interesting as KenM's. Some peoples complaining is really boring and some others is entertaining. We need more KenMs on WP to make the place more fun

Too bloody right, Spoke! By all means, have a whinge. Be prepared to accept, though, that people will NOT honestly give a shit, and some will troll you for lulz. FML is very funny for this. "You call that a problem?" Heh.

[Edited because Singularity's version is better. ]

[ProfessorFarnsworth]

Too bloody right, Spoke! By all means, have a whinge. Be prepared to accept, though, that people will NOT honestly give a shit, and some will troll you for lulz. FML is very funny for this. "You call that a problem?" Heh.

fixed.