I was going to go to the thing tomorrow but my husband decided to plan something for my birthday while he was at work and he invited his parents to come over and his nephews and niece and he ordered a cake and when he came home from work near two in the morning today, I told him about tomorrow and he said he made plans with his parents and I told him why didn't he tell me this first before he did it and he said he did it while he was at work. I told him while couldn't he just consult me first before he made the plans and he said it was supposed to be a surprise. Well I ruined the surprise with my attempted plans this weekend and it was my fault because I should have told my husband sooner but I wasn't sure if I was going to make it and I didn't know what days we were going to meet during the jazz festival since it's for three days and I didn't bother asking is there a certain we are meeting because I wasn't sure if I was going to make it so I wasn't going to bother to find out until I know I am not working those days. But I still should have told my husband about the event regardless but I didn't even know he was going to make plans for my birthday. Because I don't care about my birthday anymore, I never think of anyone is going to do something special for me that day so I am always surprised when I get birthday threads, when my parents send me something in the mail for my birthday, when my husband bakes me a cake, etc.
I am still disappointed I am not going to make it to the thing tomorrow but I feel it would make me a jerk if I backed out of what my husband planned for my birthday. It make me a jerk to pick an aspie gathering over my own husband and family on my birthday.
