Heartless Bitches

[earthboundmisfit]

I soooo want to find me a heartless bitch:

http://heartlessbitches.com/

I am constantly reading posts about guys bitching about women not liking them, women are sluts, blah blah (more so on WP than here). Their section on self-professed 'nice guys' explains why they are actually whiny misogynists:

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml

[Callaway]

I thought this rant made some interesting points:

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

Here is the beginning of it:

You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him."

I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea."

If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys (tm) are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him...

[TheoK]

They don't like nice guys. Treating your woman like shit, at least psychically, is the best way to keep most women. They think that's "manly", the stupid whores. 

[P7PSP]

How come PMS Elle hasn't jumped on this thread? Is that your Website Elle? 

[Pissgai]

Oh, for fuck's sake. Why do guys read that crap for? Most of it is all in fucking jest.

If you take everything on the net seriously then you're a fucking fool.

[El]

How come PMS Elle hasn't jumped on this thread? Is that your Website Elle? 

This is the first I'm seeing the thread- I was trying to sleep by the time it got posted.  I may be awesome but I'm not omnipresent!  

Browsing through the 'nice guy,' section I especially like this article:  http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/notniceguys.shtml

My own little rant as to why, yes, guys can be "too nice" for me (I felt inspired, lol):

I don't want to be treated like shit- I want to be treated well.  I just would like to be treated well by a guy who can hang out with my friends on Saturday night making absolutely vile jokes about everything you're not supposed to laugh at and be able to keep up with it.  The last time a new person started hanging out with us, we actually had to ask her if she would be offended by the plethora of abortion jokes we tend to make.  If a guy has a totally gentlemanly manner, a safe sense of humor, and avoids profanity, he'll bore me, and I'll never really connect to him.  I want a guy who's kind, but who can tell the difference bwteen verbal abuse (bad) and playfully insulting someone using colorful language (good).  I want a guy who's loving, caring and affectionate, but I don't want to be with someone who I would worry about completely destroying if I ended the relationship.  Hurting is a given where breakups are concerned if it comes to that and I get that, but I don't want to be the be-all end-all of someone's existence because that's just too freakin' much pressure, and it's also not a favor I'll return- the farthest I'll go is a deep, caring love and the desire to continue.  None of that soulmate bullshit.

Something interesting I've noticed happen repeatedly is that guys often get more interesting after I've shot them down but am still on friendly terms- and it's not because they're suddenly 'forbidden fruit' (it was ME that set the limit, not them).  It's because once they stop trying to impress me, guys start acting like themselves- and guys are almost never totally polite and decorous.  Guys often seem to have a much better handle on treating their friends well, having fun with them, and being comfortable with them- without feeling the need to chuck their personalities in order to do so- than they do women they're tyring to impress.  Personally I think the best romantic love has a basis in friendship, and the best friendships are grounded in trust, understanding, honesty, caring, and (in the case of my friends) occasional death threats.

[ALLDAYGLOWRANDY]

Lack of self esteem I suppose.

[P7PSP]

Oh, for fuck's sake. Why do guys read that crap for? Most of it is all in fucking jest.

If you take everything on the net seriously then you're a fucking fool.

What, in my post, indicated that I bother reading the internet polemic version of Cosmopolitan Magazine you fucking parent basement dwelling cuntrag?