You know deep down i'd love to have a relationship. But my track record with girlfriends isn't exactly pristine. Its always been me that broke it off or screwed up or got pissed and scared her off. I can't seem to get it right on this kind of stuff.
Picture your ideal, closest-to-perfect relationsihp. What's she like, what're you like, and why are you together?
Hmmmmm. Thats a difficult concept elle. My best answer would be that I peronally am just like I always am. I won't have to change a thing. She will also not have to change anything. I don't want her to be an idiot or stupid. I enjoy interesting conversation and occasional arguments. I'd like her to be fairly good looking. I don't really expect her to be perfect, but at least take care of her appearance.
I expect her to take care of her and my belongings. I will not tolerate people just putting things wherever. They MUST be organized so that they can be easily found. And most important of all, she has to enjoy at least half of the activities I enjoy. We must share common intrests or I will get bored very quickly and leave.
Together? I'd say we should get along reasonably well, and share common life goals. I don't think thats too unreasonable of a scenario huh?
Is that a good answer? 
It isn't totally unreasonable (though the fact that you want someone to pick up after herself and after you makes me cringe a bit of course, lol), but why would this person you described be with
you? I'm not saying she wouldn't be, but what, in
your opinion, would you have to offer that would attract her? (Or, what would you be willing to offer?)
If you- or
anyone- can find such a perfect match that neither partner has to
ever make any change or compromise, by the way, I'll eat my hat.
You shouldn't have to change yourself for your partner, but I have yet to be with someone where I didn't have to (for example) make compromises in my schedules and routines (which sounds simple but can be a
major pain in the ass). By saying that neither you nor her would have to change anything, did you mean that type of thing as well (not even having to change anything about how you go about your days)? Or, did you mean you'd be unwilling to change who you are?
