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Parents treating their adult kids like children
« on: November 30, 2008, 01:40:23 AM »
It has happened again. My mother treated me like a child.


We were watching Goldeneye and my dad was clueless about the movie even though he has seen it before. He was asking questions about it like which one is the bad girl and when does she die. I tell him about Xenia. I tell him she loves killing people and she is a sadist. She loves torturing them and she has an orgasm because she yells "yes yes" and my mother asks me am I so obsessed with sex or just curious about it. I ask her "Grown ups don't talk like this?" She tells me it was socially inappropriate. So I was given a lecture about how innaproppriate it is to talk about sex like that and it's vulgar, socially inappropriate, and if there were other people in the room, she would be very embarrassed for me. Sure she told me two years ago it's innaproppriate to make jokes about sex but this time I didn't. I talked about it explaining to my father about Xenia.
I am 23 and my mother still corrects me about my behavior. This is something you do to a child. I pointed it out to my mother and she said "You were being a child" and told me I sometimes say very vulgar things.


And last night, she is talking on the phone as I am watching Home Alone video game walk through on youtube and she is talking to my brother who is now 18 and out of her house. She is still telling him to come home at a certain time and he is here for the Thanksgiving week and leaves tomorrow (Sunday). I thought my brothers were leaving Saturday but no I found out they were leaving the next day. He doesn't live with here anymore because he lives an hour away now because he is in college and my mother is still giving him curfews when he is here.

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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #1 on: November 30, 2008, 04:23:39 AM »
Yeah, parents can be fucked up like that. I can't imagine it is easy to let go of having to watch out for your kids as they get older.

But still, almost in the same breath they are telling you to grow up while still insisting that you follow their rules.

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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #2 on: November 30, 2008, 05:15:08 AM »
your mom is bound by social rules from her time of youth, she doesn't realize people today speak more openly about sex. and you speak most openly because you are one of those rare gems that has no shame. :P recognize your mother's limitations and forgive her for them, parents aren't perfect but they try. :)
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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #3 on: November 30, 2008, 05:44:29 AM »
^ :plus:

My mum told me to be careful when I rode my bike to uni recently. I'm 31. :D
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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #4 on: November 30, 2008, 06:21:41 AM »
I am the baby of the family by 10 years and am very accustomed  to it though it makes me mad
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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #5 on: November 30, 2008, 06:24:16 AM »
My brother and I are almost 33 and 38 respectively. Our dad tells us not to smoke "because you get cancer from it" and not to drink and not to meet girls, becasue we can get diseases... ::)

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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #6 on: November 30, 2008, 06:26:30 AM »
...and my brother is NT and has a well paid job... ::) ::)

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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #7 on: November 30, 2008, 06:54:25 AM »
If you act like a child, expect to be treated like one.

My parents do the same, although I'm used to it. It's hard to treat a spazz like an adult, it's the sad truth. :zoinks:
« Last Edit: November 30, 2008, 06:56:09 AM by Shleeeeed »

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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #8 on: November 30, 2008, 07:04:58 AM »
yes i get treated like a kid too but i prefer it to being treated like an adult. cuz adults have more crap to do. :orly:
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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #9 on: November 30, 2008, 07:06:53 AM »
If you act like a child, expect to be treated like one.

My parents do the same, although I'm used to it. It's hard to treat a spazz like an adult, it's the sad truth. :zoinks:

Wrong thread. Try here...
http://www.intensitysquared.com/index.php/topic,10303.15.html
« Last Edit: November 30, 2008, 07:09:15 AM by aeksewiuafnq »
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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #10 on: November 30, 2008, 07:09:10 AM »
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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #11 on: November 30, 2008, 07:10:12 AM »
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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #12 on: November 30, 2008, 07:20:58 AM »
I'm going to sue you now! :'(

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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #13 on: November 30, 2008, 08:13:02 AM »
call the cops on him.
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Re: Parents treating their adult kids like children
« Reply #14 on: November 30, 2008, 08:28:20 AM »
I'd rather put on my chav gear and threathen to beat him up, then say I'm going to "sue" him even though I'm really not going to. Bastid.

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